One question I get asked the most is how did you get over traumas of the past?
We all have them in one way or another. Our lives have been shaped by some sort of emotional, mental, or physical trauma.
For the majority of us, we chuck it into a box deep within ourselves and just continue on with the mindset of "well that's life". Others get totally stumbled upon the moment and their lives seemingly stop. They are unable to progress forward and get stuck in cycles of self harm.
When I say self harm, I'm not referring to just physically hurting ourselves. I'm talking about how you have lowered your vibration to believe that you are not worthy of things that are great and amazing.
You've settled and may be harming your body by not nourishing it properly with healthy foods, not giving it proper exercise, or maybe you have even been numbing those feelings of self despair with excessive alcohol.
I speak all of this from experience. For years I lived thinking I was just meant to struggle. I was meant to just "deal" with every single thing that hit me because honestly it felt like I was always dealt bad news. Literally one thing after another seemed to pop up into my life.
A horrible job, bad health, loss of family members, a messy divorce, excessive weight gain, autoimmune disease, hair loss.... I felt like my world was barely worth living for several years.
I spent so much time looking for an escape. I dove heavily into alcohol and even dabbled with some pain killers. I didn't take care of my body and would go out drinking on the weekends for wee hours of the night and then follow it up with binges on fast food and sugary loaded garbage after an all points in between.
Finally I had enough. I had a real awakening in 2014 and realized I couldn't just stumble thru life. My issues were causing me to loose friendships, I was on the verge of my new marriage falling apart, and my unhappiness had spiraled out of control.
It wasn't until I sat down with myself and looked at how much my reaction to these issues was the real root of the problem. I was constantly rolling over and claiming victim at every situation.
I didn't stand up for myself. I was a total doormat for the sake of "not making waves" I fell into a cycle of being surrounded by narcissists because I didn't think I deserved better. I was lazy, unmotivated, and I didn't know what the heck to do about any of it all.
So I started a list. A list of what I wanted out of life. And I could only come up with one thing, and that was to be happy. The saying is true- happiness starts from within. But my "within" was yucky. And dark. And I didn't know if anyone would want the real ME. But who was the real ME?
I had to get to know her. And figure out what SHE liked. I began to start putting myself first in little areas. Things that may sound completly absurd to many, but if you are a mom you will understand.
I made sure to drink my water for the day. Being dehydrated makes me a raging bitch- wow. Figured that one out quickly!
I went to the bathroom instead of constantly holding it because I was "too busy".
I made hair appointments again.
I started to wake up earlier so I could have time for my workouts in the morning.
I started to collect crystals again
I started my meditation again.
I started to cook and bake again.
I had to remember that I am worthy of love, love from ME.
All these years I had been looking for someone to coddle me, and tell me I was worth it.
No girl- its got to be in YOU. And you are so worth it. More than we all will honestly ever comprehend in this lifetime.
Once I started realizing I am worthy, I began to make changes.
My life is still a work in progress, and it will constantly be. But now I realize how others are is never a reflection of me. Even if they MAY think otherwise, I know who I am. And that is something that is the greatest feeling in the world, knowing that you have a good heart and are just led by happiness.
Here are the 10 mantras I put into practice myself. I repeat them on the daily.
I hope they help you to realize that you are the most precious being in the world.
You are the one who can make the changes and you are worth it.
Yes- there will be struggles. Life is full of ups and downs. But knowing that you can come out of the valleys and onto the peaks is the best part of the journey.
I am grateful for me. My body deserves to be taken care of to the utmost degree
I am in control of my emotions. I must allow myself to feel and process.
I love myself and will take care of me by putting my best foot forward in all decisions regarding my health- mental, physical, and emotional.
I choose healing for my heart, body and soul every day.
I forgive myself and I'm able to forgive those who have hurt me in the past.
I am healthy in my mind, body, and spirit.
I am not a victim and do not fear anyone.
I release all emotional blocks that stop me from enjoying peace of mind.
I accept my imperfections, and I am grateful for all the blessings I have.
Obstacles in my way do not break me. I'm smart and will get through this.